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Question 1. Why is it so important to be careful with the words I speak?
Question 2. How can I help my husband become more Spiritual? He does not seem to understand Spirituality the way I do!
Question 3. What do you think about 'Perfectionists'?
Question 4. I have always felt Rejected by everyone. How do I NOT feel Rejected?
Question 5. Is there something I can do when I feel very drained and heavy at times?
Question 6. I am in a very draining marriage. I am confused if there is a 'marriage' at all here! How do I find my answers?
Question 7. I am very depressed. How do I start becoming happy and spiritual?
Question 8. Does spiritual healing and all the energy healing techniques people talk about really work?
Question 9. The number of things expected off me are way too much to handle. I am so stressed. How do I handle stress?
Question 10. What is meditation? What is the purpose of meditation?
Question 11. Why is it that what I hope for most, avoids me; but what I dread, instantly comes to get me?
Question 12. What is 'Sex' from a Spiritual Perspective?
Question 13. How can I tune in to my 'Inner Voice' more accurately, especially in times of need?
Question 14. There are certain episodes in my life that I can never get over. How do I overcome my Past Negative experiences?
Question 15. There are some people who always misunderstand what I say and pick up a fight. How do I deal with such people?
Question 2. How can I help my husband become more Spiritual? He does not seem to understand Spirituality the way I do!
Question 3. What do you think about 'Perfectionists'?
Question 4. I have always felt Rejected by everyone. How do I NOT feel Rejected?
Question 5. Is there something I can do when I feel very drained and heavy at times?
Question 6. I am in a very draining marriage. I am confused if there is a 'marriage' at all here! How do I find my answers?
Question 7. I am very depressed. How do I start becoming happy and spiritual?
Question 8. Does spiritual healing and all the energy healing techniques people talk about really work?
Question 9. The number of things expected off me are way too much to handle. I am so stressed. How do I handle stress?
Question 10. What is meditation? What is the purpose of meditation?
Question 11. Why is it that what I hope for most, avoids me; but what I dread, instantly comes to get me?
Question 12. What is 'Sex' from a Spiritual Perspective?
Question 13. How can I tune in to my 'Inner Voice' more accurately, especially in times of need?
Question 14. There are certain episodes in my life that I can never get over. How do I overcome my Past Negative experiences?
Question 15. There are some people who always misunderstand what I say and pick up a fight. How do I deal with such people?
Question : I want to understand why it is so important that I have to be careful about the words I speak? I cannot help but think about my life and my situations and vent it out in words. If I'm mad at my life, I love to scream out "My life sucks!"....What's wrong with that?
Answer : Words too are energy. The sound energy that you create when you speak cannot be destroyed (Energy is neither created not destroyed, remember?). So, the first reason why you ought to be careful about what words leave your mouth is simply because you set out a vibrational pattern that cannot escape your universe!
Through the day, we speak almost twice as much to ourselves than we do to others - what we call 'Self-Talk'. Many of us are blissfully unaware of what we even tell ourselves daily. And if one were to really get down to it, we would realise the amount of lies we tell ourselves daily. Eg: "I can never do this well", "I'm such an idiot", "I always screw up", "I'm surely gonna get into trouble this time", "My Life sucks!", and thousands of other such statements.
Each of these works like a command to the Vibrational Universe. Energy ripples are created that align itself to obey your command. And the entire universe strives to create an experience for you where your command would fructify - the command "My Life sucks!" for example.
Words do have their own energy fields and have the power to change our reality. Check out Masaru Emoto's experiments with water to know the power that words have, at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAvzsjcBtx8.
Often, our psyche is so obsessed with 'facts' and 'as-is', that we forget the bigger picture. We feel so relieved in saying things exactly as grim they are, that we forget that each time we even repeat the misery of the situation, we create a a stronger energy field that sustains the status-quo! We find it foolish to say "Life is good. I'm very happy with the way things are unfolding in my life..."
There is enough misery in the world. Everybody probably has their own battles. Why add to the negative energies already abundant by wording-out your miseries? Start by speaking differently about your life. No, I'm not asking you lie. I'm only asking you to say things that you would love to believe and love to have in your life. It's good to say "My life is great. My Life is easy. I always find a way to overcome hurdles in my life. I love the way my life flows. Things were bad till this moment, but I can see change coming my way..." You gettin' the feel of it??
Look deeper and feel the energies in your words. Simple changes can go a long way in changing the entire feel of a sentence.
For eg : Don't say - "I'm happy, but I have a huge loan to pay off". Say - "I have a huge loan to pay off, but I'm happy!"
Don't say - "I exercise regularly, but I have lots of pain in my joints". Instead try - "I have lots of pain in my joints, but I exercise regularly."
It's simple! Just pay a little attention to your thoughts and words. And see how you can come up with new ways to make yourself sound more positive and hopeful, just by altering the way you think.
Believe me, this is more powerful than you think it is!
(also read : http://www.vitalaffirmations.com/affirmations.htm#.UTQSf6LLMrY)
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Answer : Words too are energy. The sound energy that you create when you speak cannot be destroyed (Energy is neither created not destroyed, remember?). So, the first reason why you ought to be careful about what words leave your mouth is simply because you set out a vibrational pattern that cannot escape your universe!
Through the day, we speak almost twice as much to ourselves than we do to others - what we call 'Self-Talk'. Many of us are blissfully unaware of what we even tell ourselves daily. And if one were to really get down to it, we would realise the amount of lies we tell ourselves daily. Eg: "I can never do this well", "I'm such an idiot", "I always screw up", "I'm surely gonna get into trouble this time", "My Life sucks!", and thousands of other such statements.
Each of these works like a command to the Vibrational Universe. Energy ripples are created that align itself to obey your command. And the entire universe strives to create an experience for you where your command would fructify - the command "My Life sucks!" for example.
Words do have their own energy fields and have the power to change our reality. Check out Masaru Emoto's experiments with water to know the power that words have, at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAvzsjcBtx8.
Often, our psyche is so obsessed with 'facts' and 'as-is', that we forget the bigger picture. We feel so relieved in saying things exactly as grim they are, that we forget that each time we even repeat the misery of the situation, we create a a stronger energy field that sustains the status-quo! We find it foolish to say "Life is good. I'm very happy with the way things are unfolding in my life..."
There is enough misery in the world. Everybody probably has their own battles. Why add to the negative energies already abundant by wording-out your miseries? Start by speaking differently about your life. No, I'm not asking you lie. I'm only asking you to say things that you would love to believe and love to have in your life. It's good to say "My life is great. My Life is easy. I always find a way to overcome hurdles in my life. I love the way my life flows. Things were bad till this moment, but I can see change coming my way..." You gettin' the feel of it??
Look deeper and feel the energies in your words. Simple changes can go a long way in changing the entire feel of a sentence.
For eg : Don't say - "I'm happy, but I have a huge loan to pay off". Say - "I have a huge loan to pay off, but I'm happy!"
Don't say - "I exercise regularly, but I have lots of pain in my joints". Instead try - "I have lots of pain in my joints, but I exercise regularly."
It's simple! Just pay a little attention to your thoughts and words. And see how you can come up with new ways to make yourself sound more positive and hopeful, just by altering the way you think.
Believe me, this is more powerful than you think it is!
(also read : http://www.vitalaffirmations.com/affirmations.htm#.UTQSf6LLMrY)
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Question : I am quite a spiritual person. I believe in the Mystical World of Metaphysics and have even transformed my own life with the help of the Universe. My concern is that my husband does not believe in what I believe. I have tried a lot to impress upon him the beauty of the world of metaphysics. I clearly can see that he would do well with some positive thinking and changes in outlook. But he is quite stubborn about the fact that he is fine just as he is and that I need not try to mould him with my beliefs. I would like to know what I can do in order to help him become more spiritual?
Answer : This is a question that comes to us in many different avatars. All of us want to be happy. And all of us want to be with happy people. I guess it is just human nature. Unfortunately, there is only so much we can do to change someone else, no matter how 'close' they might be.
We are all living our lives as per a plan - something that our soul has charted out for us long before we were even born. We call it the 'Soul Plan'. Some others call it destiny/fate/Karma. This plan is quite thorough. It's more like drawing out a detailed route map before we start on a journey. And we have planned when exactly we would 'take a detour', when we would 'stop to rest' and when we would 'change course'. It is all perfectly drawn out!
And each individual is leading his/her life as per their own plan. The plan also involves who we would live with as our parents, relatives, spouse and friends; how long we would travel with them and how we would contribute to their journey and vice versa.
When you understand this, it is but obvious that as a wife you are in no position to change the course of your husband's journey. You do not even know his life plan! Therefore, if you strongly feel that change is good, you better help yourself to change. Work on yourself to the point where you are even able to accept your husband EXACTLY as he is.
Whether your husband changes or not is left to his free will. Allow him to decide when he would like to change the way he approaches life. Remember, your husband is also living by a plan that is perfectly designed for him. Just because your path seems right to you, it need not be that it would be right for him at this point in time!
Learn to trust in the fact that if he has chosen you as a partner, perhaps he is meant to imbibe something from you at some point. Trust that he WILL imbibe whatever he is meant to imbibe from you in his own time. It is not your job to ensure that he does so! Let go! Allow him to travel his journey. And you play your role by being the best partner you can be. Perhaps 'pushing' your spouse to change might even lead to resistance from his end. But 'inspiring' him to change by your own growth and happiness might turn out far more fruitful.
"Be the change that you wish to see in your World." There couldn't be anything more apt than this in this post.
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Answer : This is a question that comes to us in many different avatars. All of us want to be happy. And all of us want to be with happy people. I guess it is just human nature. Unfortunately, there is only so much we can do to change someone else, no matter how 'close' they might be.
We are all living our lives as per a plan - something that our soul has charted out for us long before we were even born. We call it the 'Soul Plan'. Some others call it destiny/fate/Karma. This plan is quite thorough. It's more like drawing out a detailed route map before we start on a journey. And we have planned when exactly we would 'take a detour', when we would 'stop to rest' and when we would 'change course'. It is all perfectly drawn out!
And each individual is leading his/her life as per their own plan. The plan also involves who we would live with as our parents, relatives, spouse and friends; how long we would travel with them and how we would contribute to their journey and vice versa.
When you understand this, it is but obvious that as a wife you are in no position to change the course of your husband's journey. You do not even know his life plan! Therefore, if you strongly feel that change is good, you better help yourself to change. Work on yourself to the point where you are even able to accept your husband EXACTLY as he is.
Whether your husband changes or not is left to his free will. Allow him to decide when he would like to change the way he approaches life. Remember, your husband is also living by a plan that is perfectly designed for him. Just because your path seems right to you, it need not be that it would be right for him at this point in time!
Learn to trust in the fact that if he has chosen you as a partner, perhaps he is meant to imbibe something from you at some point. Trust that he WILL imbibe whatever he is meant to imbibe from you in his own time. It is not your job to ensure that he does so! Let go! Allow him to travel his journey. And you play your role by being the best partner you can be. Perhaps 'pushing' your spouse to change might even lead to resistance from his end. But 'inspiring' him to change by your own growth and happiness might turn out far more fruitful.
"Be the change that you wish to see in your World." There couldn't be anything more apt than this in this post.
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Question : What do you think about 'Perfectionists'?
Answer : Some people take pride in calling themselves Perfectionists. Perfectionists believe that a job is not worth doing unless you can do it perfectly - whatever the time and effort it takes. Strangely, these perfectionists are so lost in seeking perfection that they are often very stressed, under a lot of pressure, constantly striving to make things happen, very critical and judgemental, and they even get frustrated to see others happy and cruising through life!
"Perfectionism is Self Abuse of the highest order" ~ Anne Wilson Schaef
Think about it...it's as if you are your own dictator, holding a gun at your own head. Possibly nobody really cares so much about perfectionism as much as you do. And you might be creating your own 'stories' in your head of how great you would feel/how much you would be appreciated when everything is 'Perfect'. But most often these are stories that YOU might have held on to...they may not be really required to be happy!
Dr. Wayne Dyer recommends to change "Do your best" to simply "Do". Perfectionism is not necessary or beneficial. There are other ways to think, that are far more beneficial.
I have heard one such 'Perfectionist' say : God is Perfect. Therefore Perfection is Divine. It is our duty to strive for perfection! Well, I would definitely agree that God indeed is perfect. And everything that is divine is perfect. Now take this as a premise and look at Nature. Nature is considered as an expression of divinity. And Nature is Perfect. But that does not mean that every rose that blooms is made with the exact same angles and proportions. Each rose is different. Some of them are big and fluffy. They are perfect. While some others are smaller and not as fluffy but still equally perfect! Even as buds they are equally perfect! Nature does not define 'Perfection' based on a set of rules/protocols/conditions. Nature does not say that unless the final stage of evolution is reached, it will not even exist! Everything in nature is Perfect exactly as it is....and there lies its Divinity.
So how does it make sense to create a skewed definition of 'Perfectionism' that is not Natural and Universal, and then push yourself to adhere to your own set of rules and should-be's ? That's Self-Abuse!
Seek Perfection by allowing yourself to 'Be'. Perfection is not comparative. It is not conditional. Allow yourself to be like Mother Nature - unique, unconditional, gentle and always evolving.
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Answer : Some people take pride in calling themselves Perfectionists. Perfectionists believe that a job is not worth doing unless you can do it perfectly - whatever the time and effort it takes. Strangely, these perfectionists are so lost in seeking perfection that they are often very stressed, under a lot of pressure, constantly striving to make things happen, very critical and judgemental, and they even get frustrated to see others happy and cruising through life!
"Perfectionism is Self Abuse of the highest order" ~ Anne Wilson Schaef
Think about it...it's as if you are your own dictator, holding a gun at your own head. Possibly nobody really cares so much about perfectionism as much as you do. And you might be creating your own 'stories' in your head of how great you would feel/how much you would be appreciated when everything is 'Perfect'. But most often these are stories that YOU might have held on to...they may not be really required to be happy!
Dr. Wayne Dyer recommends to change "Do your best" to simply "Do". Perfectionism is not necessary or beneficial. There are other ways to think, that are far more beneficial.
I have heard one such 'Perfectionist' say : God is Perfect. Therefore Perfection is Divine. It is our duty to strive for perfection! Well, I would definitely agree that God indeed is perfect. And everything that is divine is perfect. Now take this as a premise and look at Nature. Nature is considered as an expression of divinity. And Nature is Perfect. But that does not mean that every rose that blooms is made with the exact same angles and proportions. Each rose is different. Some of them are big and fluffy. They are perfect. While some others are smaller and not as fluffy but still equally perfect! Even as buds they are equally perfect! Nature does not define 'Perfection' based on a set of rules/protocols/conditions. Nature does not say that unless the final stage of evolution is reached, it will not even exist! Everything in nature is Perfect exactly as it is....and there lies its Divinity.
So how does it make sense to create a skewed definition of 'Perfectionism' that is not Natural and Universal, and then push yourself to adhere to your own set of rules and should-be's ? That's Self-Abuse!
Seek Perfection by allowing yourself to 'Be'. Perfection is not comparative. It is not conditional. Allow yourself to be like Mother Nature - unique, unconditional, gentle and always evolving.
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Question : I have always felt rejected by everyone - right from my childhood. Initially I used to feel depressed. But now I get extremely angry and lash out at people who reject me. Generally I'm quite a happy person...but the moment I sense rejection, I cannot bear to take it...How do I NOT feel rejected??
Answer : Rejection is common. It is one of the emotions that every human HAS to go through at some point in time, in some form or the other - a baby can feel rejected when it cries and nobody comes to its call; you can feel rejected if somebody does not answer your call; you can feel rejected in a group where all the attention goes to one person 'stealing the show'; you can feel rejected anywhere, anytime.
But then, it is also an emotion that comes with a lot of implications - a lot of analysis. And these implications and analysis are what determine how you handle rejection in your life.
One of the first implications of Rejection is the feeling that "You are not good enough". So now, you would automatically try to change yourself to appear good enough to the other. You might succeed in 'appearing' good enough, but there is also a chance that you might not! And this only complicates things because NOW you might yourself reject yourself! This is worse!
Well, getting out of this loop of rejection and re-rejection is simple but requires some bit of hard-work.
1. Accept Yourself : The First person who needs to stop the "Rejection Game' is YOU. It is ONLY as long as you keep rejecting yourself that others have the power to make you feel rejected. The moment YOU accept yourself and are very proud of exactly the way you are, there is not much scope for rejection.
2. Do your best : Look at yourself honestly - NOT critically! Ask yourself, "Is there anything in me that should change because I feel I will be a better person if I do so?" Ponder over this question. If there is, then work on that aspect of you. If there isn't, then there's no worry! Do not push yourself to do things/be someone you do not believe in. You do YOUR best and let things be.
3. Love Yourself : Start to work on your Self-Love. Once you have gotten to a point where you can Accept yourself as you are and you believe that you are doing YOUR best, you need to start working on Loving Yourself. Ask yourself the question : "If my son/daughter were in my shoes and was going through EXACTLY what I was going through, what advise would I give him/her?" THAT is your answer. We often Love others so effortlessly and want the best to happen to them; we have the best advise reserved for them; we have the best prayers and intents for them....But we often fail miserably when it comes to giving the same advise to ourselves (even when we know it is good for us). Perhaps the reason is simply because we believe "We are not worth it!" Well, that is exactly the belief that is at the root of you being rejected. The entire world is only reiterating to you that you are not worth it, because that's what YOU believe deep down inside of you.
Affirm everyday : "I love and accept myself exactly as I am".
When you do this, feeling the depth of every word in the affirmation, you will start to realize that you don't really need people who reject you. So you would either opt out of their company or you might know how to speak up to them and stand your ground. Either ways - you move to environments where you are completely accepted and loved for EXACTLY what you are!
Read more : http://www.professional-counselling.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection.html
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Answer : Rejection is common. It is one of the emotions that every human HAS to go through at some point in time, in some form or the other - a baby can feel rejected when it cries and nobody comes to its call; you can feel rejected if somebody does not answer your call; you can feel rejected in a group where all the attention goes to one person 'stealing the show'; you can feel rejected anywhere, anytime.
But then, it is also an emotion that comes with a lot of implications - a lot of analysis. And these implications and analysis are what determine how you handle rejection in your life.
One of the first implications of Rejection is the feeling that "You are not good enough". So now, you would automatically try to change yourself to appear good enough to the other. You might succeed in 'appearing' good enough, but there is also a chance that you might not! And this only complicates things because NOW you might yourself reject yourself! This is worse!
Well, getting out of this loop of rejection and re-rejection is simple but requires some bit of hard-work.
1. Accept Yourself : The First person who needs to stop the "Rejection Game' is YOU. It is ONLY as long as you keep rejecting yourself that others have the power to make you feel rejected. The moment YOU accept yourself and are very proud of exactly the way you are, there is not much scope for rejection.
2. Do your best : Look at yourself honestly - NOT critically! Ask yourself, "Is there anything in me that should change because I feel I will be a better person if I do so?" Ponder over this question. If there is, then work on that aspect of you. If there isn't, then there's no worry! Do not push yourself to do things/be someone you do not believe in. You do YOUR best and let things be.
3. Love Yourself : Start to work on your Self-Love. Once you have gotten to a point where you can Accept yourself as you are and you believe that you are doing YOUR best, you need to start working on Loving Yourself. Ask yourself the question : "If my son/daughter were in my shoes and was going through EXACTLY what I was going through, what advise would I give him/her?" THAT is your answer. We often Love others so effortlessly and want the best to happen to them; we have the best advise reserved for them; we have the best prayers and intents for them....But we often fail miserably when it comes to giving the same advise to ourselves (even when we know it is good for us). Perhaps the reason is simply because we believe "We are not worth it!" Well, that is exactly the belief that is at the root of you being rejected. The entire world is only reiterating to you that you are not worth it, because that's what YOU believe deep down inside of you.
Affirm everyday : "I love and accept myself exactly as I am".
When you do this, feeling the depth of every word in the affirmation, you will start to realize that you don't really need people who reject you. So you would either opt out of their company or you might know how to speak up to them and stand your ground. Either ways - you move to environments where you are completely accepted and loved for EXACTLY what you are!
Read more : http://www.professional-counselling.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection.html
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Question : Is there something I can do when I feel very drained and heavy at times?
Answer : Salt is one of the most easily available healing tools that anyone can lay their hands on. Our Aura and Chakras are often subject to a lot of contamination at an Energy Level. This happens on a daily basis - when we go to crowded places, when we visit places with low energies (like hospitals/funerals), when we meet people with lot of negativity, when we ourselves get into negative mind-frames, etc.
Contamination of our energies have quite an impact on our minds & bodies. Some of the symptoms of Energy Contamination could be:
- Lethargy
- Reduction in promptness
- Inability to think
- Excessive thoughts especially when they are negative in nature
- Anger or any other extreme emotion
- Stress
- Body aches/headaches/physical discomfort
Salt has the ability to immediately absorb all forms of negative/contaminating energies from our auras.
~ Rural India still bears signs of practices where a handful of salt (along with chilies/other herbal condiments) is swooshed around the person to cleanse his aura of the 'Evil-Eye' and other negative energies.
~ If you have been to the beach, you somehow always come back always feeling lighter and more energetic. Something seems to change. Isn't it?
Natural Salt (sea salt, rock salt, himalayan salt) usually has a greater absorbing capacity. However, even the kitchen-salt is equally good a tool to cleanse negative energies.
Read about a more in-depth study on Healing with Salt : http://www.spiritualresearchfoundation.org/Whatissaltwaterremedy
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Answer : Salt is one of the most easily available healing tools that anyone can lay their hands on. Our Aura and Chakras are often subject to a lot of contamination at an Energy Level. This happens on a daily basis - when we go to crowded places, when we visit places with low energies (like hospitals/funerals), when we meet people with lot of negativity, when we ourselves get into negative mind-frames, etc.
Contamination of our energies have quite an impact on our minds & bodies. Some of the symptoms of Energy Contamination could be:
- Lethargy
- Reduction in promptness
- Inability to think
- Excessive thoughts especially when they are negative in nature
- Anger or any other extreme emotion
- Stress
- Body aches/headaches/physical discomfort
Salt has the ability to immediately absorb all forms of negative/contaminating energies from our auras.
~ Rural India still bears signs of practices where a handful of salt (along with chilies/other herbal condiments) is swooshed around the person to cleanse his aura of the 'Evil-Eye' and other negative energies.
~ If you have been to the beach, you somehow always come back always feeling lighter and more energetic. Something seems to change. Isn't it?
Natural Salt (sea salt, rock salt, himalayan salt) usually has a greater absorbing capacity. However, even the kitchen-salt is equally good a tool to cleanse negative energies.
Read about a more in-depth study on Healing with Salt : http://www.spiritualresearchfoundation.org/Whatissaltwaterremedy
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Question : I feel I am in an extremely draining marriage. My husband is NEVER there for me physically or emotionally. I feel there is hardly a marriage anymore. But then he tells me that he still loves me, cares about me and can't live without me. I have also found him flirting with other women (which he doesn't like to talk about...)
I do not know if I should hold on or move on. I don't even know if I should trust my feelings or what he says about our marriage.
Answer : We see a lot of people who are in a relationship/marriage that is quite 'dead'! But it is quite hard for someone who is actively a part of the story to see that it is long over and now is only being stretched and dragged...(akin to some of the television soaps)
Dragging a story that is long over drains everybody involved. And somehow there are always reasons like 'hope', 'an old promise' or 'the kids' that tend to keep people waiting eternally in such relationships and marriages....
Here are some quick signs to know that you are 'Waiting' for the wrong person. And chance are if you let things go as they are, you would wait endlessly...
THE SIGNS :
1. YOU GIVE MORE THAN YOU RECEIVE
At the end of the day, you are left with the feeling that you have done SO MUCH for your partner and you are not quite sure if you have got as much from him/her. You feel drained at the end of each day...
2. THEY DON'T SHOW UP FOR YOU
You are the one who buys the gifts, who waits for the special occasions, who tried to keep a conversation alive...There is no such initiative from their end. On a day that matters to you the most - Your promotion, your party, your book-release function, your birthday - they don't seem to be there (Physically, Mentally, Emotionally)
3. THEY ARE POOR COMMUNICATORS
They might be good story-tellers, but not necessarily a communicator! Consistently, if you find that there is always a struggle to communicate....Very hard to reach him/her on phone or to get a clear answer, its a clear red signal. Perhaps you might find yourself talking mostly through messages!
4. THEY ARE FULL OF EXCUSES
There is always a story ready that you just cannot refuse! None of your plans with your partner work. They are just like slippery fish that you are trying to catch with your bare hands. They are always either overworked, stressed, busy, tired or broke!
5. THEY TALK A LOT ABOUT THEIR PAST
There is usually a tendency to dwell in the past either glorifying their previous relationships or cursing the start of the current one. Either ways, they seem to use that as a crutch to justify their present. One who is not completely willing to accept the present and take charge of his/her life, is definitely not available in the relationship!
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Clear up your mind. Open your eyes to what is it that YOU want in a relationship. Commitment is a big ask and often people Commit before they really are ready to commit. You need to understand that it's ok to let go! You are making things easy for all involved....
In letting go, you are also making the space for the right person to come in. You can only accept and receive the love that you think you deserve. You are perfect exactly as you are. Don't allow anyone to make you feel any different about it!
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I do not know if I should hold on or move on. I don't even know if I should trust my feelings or what he says about our marriage.
Answer : We see a lot of people who are in a relationship/marriage that is quite 'dead'! But it is quite hard for someone who is actively a part of the story to see that it is long over and now is only being stretched and dragged...(akin to some of the television soaps)
Dragging a story that is long over drains everybody involved. And somehow there are always reasons like 'hope', 'an old promise' or 'the kids' that tend to keep people waiting eternally in such relationships and marriages....
Here are some quick signs to know that you are 'Waiting' for the wrong person. And chance are if you let things go as they are, you would wait endlessly...
THE SIGNS :
1. YOU GIVE MORE THAN YOU RECEIVE
At the end of the day, you are left with the feeling that you have done SO MUCH for your partner and you are not quite sure if you have got as much from him/her. You feel drained at the end of each day...
2. THEY DON'T SHOW UP FOR YOU
You are the one who buys the gifts, who waits for the special occasions, who tried to keep a conversation alive...There is no such initiative from their end. On a day that matters to you the most - Your promotion, your party, your book-release function, your birthday - they don't seem to be there (Physically, Mentally, Emotionally)
3. THEY ARE POOR COMMUNICATORS
They might be good story-tellers, but not necessarily a communicator! Consistently, if you find that there is always a struggle to communicate....Very hard to reach him/her on phone or to get a clear answer, its a clear red signal. Perhaps you might find yourself talking mostly through messages!
4. THEY ARE FULL OF EXCUSES
There is always a story ready that you just cannot refuse! None of your plans with your partner work. They are just like slippery fish that you are trying to catch with your bare hands. They are always either overworked, stressed, busy, tired or broke!
5. THEY TALK A LOT ABOUT THEIR PAST
There is usually a tendency to dwell in the past either glorifying their previous relationships or cursing the start of the current one. Either ways, they seem to use that as a crutch to justify their present. One who is not completely willing to accept the present and take charge of his/her life, is definitely not available in the relationship!
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Clear up your mind. Open your eyes to what is it that YOU want in a relationship. Commitment is a big ask and often people Commit before they really are ready to commit. You need to understand that it's ok to let go! You are making things easy for all involved....
In letting go, you are also making the space for the right person to come in. You can only accept and receive the love that you think you deserve. You are perfect exactly as you are. Don't allow anyone to make you feel any different about it!
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Question : I have gone through a lot in my life and I usually tend to get into a depressive mood very easily. Lot of my relatives and friends ask me to focus on the positive and focus on doing things that make me happy. I try my best to do that, but the more I try to be happy, the more I get back to being depressive! How do I become happy and spiritual?
Answer :
Answer :
"What is the obsession with being happy in the spiritual movement? Why is it that this ONE emotion is better than any other? When we act positive all the time, we totally miss out on this huge array of other possible feelings.
Trying to force happiness is like trying to force a plant to grow. You can do it, sure, but it's not real.
Think about it, because I see a lot about "being positive", but it doesn't take into consideration that in order to create positivity, one must first take what IS (the negativity), and make it into something new!
And you can't fill a cup that's already full."
~ Jordan Pearce
I have often seen people who reject their darker sides/emotions because they always want to be happy. But remember the Law of Persistence - "What you try to resist the most, Persists!"
All emotions that the Human Mind feels are necessary for the mind to remain healthy. Many of our negative emotions serve as pointers or reminders to take action. They are all tools in our spiritual growth. Not wanting 'negative' emotions in your life is like saying "I do not want tyres in my car because they get very dirty!"
However, it is the birthright of every Human to be in a state of Happiness. Here are a few steps to work with yourself and get over those emotions that are holding you back.
1. The first step you need to take is to ACCEPT what you feel at this moment. You need to recognize all the emotions that you are going through...just because they are negative, they are NOT bad! They are all a very real part of you! Accept them, Acknowledge them.
2. Take Responsibility for yourself. Recognize that there is some Fear that is deep inside of you that is driving all of these emotions to surface and keeping them in place. What are you really scared of? Do you think you might be accused of the same thing that you are scared of?
3. Let go of all people involved in the situation. They are not responsible for the way you feel. You are not responsible for the way they feel. Ask yourself - "Whose emotion is this after all?" Return all that doesn't belong, to the rightful owner. Take responsibility for your emotions. It is your responsibility to learn your lessons and bring yourself to a point where you do not feel like a victim of life. Because, believe me, you are NOT a victim!
4. Then, Forgive yourself for all that you feel you have done wrong. Taking responsibility is good, but we are not asking you to blame yourself! Know that you really did go through a lot in your life and you were mostly reacting out of pain. It is OK to have done that in the past, if you are willing to help yourself get out of pain.
5. Forgive all people who you have blamed at any point in your life. Let them all go with the knowing that YOU have scripted your life way before you were even born. They were required to play exactly the role they did, to bring you to exactly this point you are in right now! It is all perfectly as per the plan!
6. Most painful patterns have their seeds in childhood - maybe with our parent of the same sex. Pull up those memories and go over all of these steps again.
It is only when you have worked over acknowledging and working your way out of what holds you down, can you rise to something you want to reach up to! You could take professional help to help you work over these aspects too...
Being Happy is good. Being happy is Spiritual. But Being Happy is a process. It is not a quick-fix, overnight solution! It involves a bit of work and a lot of love for yourself...
Do not force the 'plant to grow'...Allow it to grow and soon you will see it as a source of shade, comfort and joy to all that behold it!
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All emotions that the Human Mind feels are necessary for the mind to remain healthy. Many of our negative emotions serve as pointers or reminders to take action. They are all tools in our spiritual growth. Not wanting 'negative' emotions in your life is like saying "I do not want tyres in my car because they get very dirty!"
However, it is the birthright of every Human to be in a state of Happiness. Here are a few steps to work with yourself and get over those emotions that are holding you back.
1. The first step you need to take is to ACCEPT what you feel at this moment. You need to recognize all the emotions that you are going through...just because they are negative, they are NOT bad! They are all a very real part of you! Accept them, Acknowledge them.
2. Take Responsibility for yourself. Recognize that there is some Fear that is deep inside of you that is driving all of these emotions to surface and keeping them in place. What are you really scared of? Do you think you might be accused of the same thing that you are scared of?
3. Let go of all people involved in the situation. They are not responsible for the way you feel. You are not responsible for the way they feel. Ask yourself - "Whose emotion is this after all?" Return all that doesn't belong, to the rightful owner. Take responsibility for your emotions. It is your responsibility to learn your lessons and bring yourself to a point where you do not feel like a victim of life. Because, believe me, you are NOT a victim!
4. Then, Forgive yourself for all that you feel you have done wrong. Taking responsibility is good, but we are not asking you to blame yourself! Know that you really did go through a lot in your life and you were mostly reacting out of pain. It is OK to have done that in the past, if you are willing to help yourself get out of pain.
5. Forgive all people who you have blamed at any point in your life. Let them all go with the knowing that YOU have scripted your life way before you were even born. They were required to play exactly the role they did, to bring you to exactly this point you are in right now! It is all perfectly as per the plan!
6. Most painful patterns have their seeds in childhood - maybe with our parent of the same sex. Pull up those memories and go over all of these steps again.
It is only when you have worked over acknowledging and working your way out of what holds you down, can you rise to something you want to reach up to! You could take professional help to help you work over these aspects too...
Being Happy is good. Being happy is Spiritual. But Being Happy is a process. It is not a quick-fix, overnight solution! It involves a bit of work and a lot of love for yourself...
Do not force the 'plant to grow'...Allow it to grow and soon you will see it as a source of shade, comfort and joy to all that behold it!
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Question : Does spiritual healing and all the energy healing techniques people talk about really work?
Answer : Well, we would like to begin by asking you, how often have you heard of someone 'Praying' for a friend or relative very ill in hospital? How often have you prayed for someone to get better and seen improvement? And what do you think you are actually doing when you pray?
I would say, you are actually sending a lot of 'thought energy' along with a very clear Intent and Belief to the patient to recover. We need not really get into the details of how this energy changes the condition of the patient. But what we need to know is that when you pray too you are actually sending out Energy Healing!
A survey of American family physicians found that 99 percent of the physicians are convinced that spiritual beliefs can heal, and 75 percent believe that prayers of others can help a patient recover. Today, it is almost well known scientific knowledge that praying for patients helps them heal faster. "Developing research shows that spiritual healing through other people’s prayers (intercessory prayer) reduces the need for breathing machines and drug treatment using antibiotics or water pills in heart patients" - WebMD.
So, yes there is enough evidence to show that the Power of thought and intent has an effect on people even across distances.
Here is one such Scientific experiment to show the effect of conscious intent and belief on an individual :
Dr. Glen Rein (PhD) discovered that loving energy sent through intent has conformational changes on the human DNA molecule. The DNA molecule actually unwound and began to heal itself when in the presence of loving energy sent through intent. The DNA molecule began to heal itself ONLY when sent the energy of love through conscious intention, and did the opposite when sent thoughts of tension and anger. "Effects of Conscious Intention on Human DNA" is the name of the study and here is a link to the original study.
http://www.item-bioenergy.com/infocenter/ConsciousIntentiononDNA.pdf
All forms of Spiritual Healing and Energy Healing works on these principles of thought energy, power of intent and belief.
As the consciousness levels are changing at Global levels, lots more people are becoming aware of these phenomena. None of these are looked at as 'weird, freaky stuff', but as very real aspects of our existence.
I believe there will come a time, when humanity as a whole will be so in tune with healing with the power of intent and thought, that there will hardly be any illness around!
Here are mainstream media outlets discussing spiritual healing:
~ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-larry-dossey/spirituality-healing-and_b_680472.html
~ http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-408280/Could-spiritual-healing-actually-work.html
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Answer : Well, we would like to begin by asking you, how often have you heard of someone 'Praying' for a friend or relative very ill in hospital? How often have you prayed for someone to get better and seen improvement? And what do you think you are actually doing when you pray?
I would say, you are actually sending a lot of 'thought energy' along with a very clear Intent and Belief to the patient to recover. We need not really get into the details of how this energy changes the condition of the patient. But what we need to know is that when you pray too you are actually sending out Energy Healing!
A survey of American family physicians found that 99 percent of the physicians are convinced that spiritual beliefs can heal, and 75 percent believe that prayers of others can help a patient recover. Today, it is almost well known scientific knowledge that praying for patients helps them heal faster. "Developing research shows that spiritual healing through other people’s prayers (intercessory prayer) reduces the need for breathing machines and drug treatment using antibiotics or water pills in heart patients" - WebMD.
So, yes there is enough evidence to show that the Power of thought and intent has an effect on people even across distances.
Here is one such Scientific experiment to show the effect of conscious intent and belief on an individual :
Dr. Glen Rein (PhD) discovered that loving energy sent through intent has conformational changes on the human DNA molecule. The DNA molecule actually unwound and began to heal itself when in the presence of loving energy sent through intent. The DNA molecule began to heal itself ONLY when sent the energy of love through conscious intention, and did the opposite when sent thoughts of tension and anger. "Effects of Conscious Intention on Human DNA" is the name of the study and here is a link to the original study.
http://www.item-bioenergy.com/infocenter/ConsciousIntentiononDNA.pdf
All forms of Spiritual Healing and Energy Healing works on these principles of thought energy, power of intent and belief.
As the consciousness levels are changing at Global levels, lots more people are becoming aware of these phenomena. None of these are looked at as 'weird, freaky stuff', but as very real aspects of our existence.
I believe there will come a time, when humanity as a whole will be so in tune with healing with the power of intent and thought, that there will hardly be any illness around!
Here are mainstream media outlets discussing spiritual healing:
~ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-larry-dossey/spirituality-healing-and_b_680472.html
~ http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-408280/Could-spiritual-healing-actually-work.html
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Choices allow us to breathe
Question : There are times when I am so stressed in the day! I just feel that the number of things that are expected off me are way too much for me to handle. I'm trying my best to manage everything...but somehow, I just can't keep up! Either it's the traffic or others' attitudes or sometimes sheer bad luck.....they all get to me! I just end up feeling like a loser and that I'm no good! How do I handle all this stress?
Answer : Many of us put ourselves in conditions where we feel that we SHOULD do something. Our vocabulary is often full of words such as "I should have done that!", "I Ought to have done it that way", "I HAVE to do that!", etc. We even hear others advice us "You MUST do this...", "You MUST have this diet", "You MUST be happy", "You MUST be peaceful"....
All of this is very good advice no doubt. But, somewhere along the line, it brings about a sense of rigidity...a feeling of suffocation. Very subconsciously, we start to feel that we really need to push ourselves to do what MUST be done....and if by chance, we are not able to do it, we even get into a 'Guilt mode' or 'Self Blame' mode...This is one of the first reasons why we feel stressed out!
The Solution is simple! The first thing that you can do is to remove the words 'should', 'must', 'ought to', 'have to' from your vocabulary! These are dangerous words! They are the root for all stress and tension!
Replace these words with "Could", "Can choose to", "Can"...
These words have a sense of lightness to it. They do not take away your freedom. They give you space to breathe. They do not make life sound like a punishment. They give you a choice! And there is no such thing as empowering as a choice. So do not tell yourself "I Must finish this project!" Instead say "It would be nice, if I could finish this project."
Understand that you always have a choice. Do not eliminate the choice because someone else expects you to - even if the 'someone else' is your boss or your family. Because the moment you lose your choices, you start to suffocate and stress!
Often, the person who eliminates the choices is you yourself! Some of us love to work under self-imposed pressure! But this too is finally eliminating your choices...and in the long run, you are walking to a break-down.
All of this might sound easy, but it does require some conscious work. It is so subconscious at times that we do not even see in which aspects of life, we have eliminated our choices. It is never too late to get back your choices. If your work is stressing you, you ALWAYS have the choice to quit. If your family is stressing you, you ALWAYS have the choice to take a break.
Yes, it might seem like your entire world would crash if you did so...But that's the whole point! You need to know that NOTHING terrible would happen if you were to make the choice! You haven't even tried! You are not the only one who is running the show! No system runs on the back of a single individual. When one way of working does not work, another more efficient one props up. That's how any system works. Nobody is irreplaceable!
Remember that there is only one person who is in charge of your life - YOU! And life is all about Freedom! Do not lose your freedom to words such as "Should" and "Must". Claim your freedom back and live your life as if EVERYTHING is a choice!
(also read this beautiful article : http://www.alkimea.co/a-few-tips-on-overcoming-resistance/)
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Answer : Many of us put ourselves in conditions where we feel that we SHOULD do something. Our vocabulary is often full of words such as "I should have done that!", "I Ought to have done it that way", "I HAVE to do that!", etc. We even hear others advice us "You MUST do this...", "You MUST have this diet", "You MUST be happy", "You MUST be peaceful"....
All of this is very good advice no doubt. But, somewhere along the line, it brings about a sense of rigidity...a feeling of suffocation. Very subconsciously, we start to feel that we really need to push ourselves to do what MUST be done....and if by chance, we are not able to do it, we even get into a 'Guilt mode' or 'Self Blame' mode...This is one of the first reasons why we feel stressed out!
The Solution is simple! The first thing that you can do is to remove the words 'should', 'must', 'ought to', 'have to' from your vocabulary! These are dangerous words! They are the root for all stress and tension!
Replace these words with "Could", "Can choose to", "Can"...
These words have a sense of lightness to it. They do not take away your freedom. They give you space to breathe. They do not make life sound like a punishment. They give you a choice! And there is no such thing as empowering as a choice. So do not tell yourself "I Must finish this project!" Instead say "It would be nice, if I could finish this project."
Understand that you always have a choice. Do not eliminate the choice because someone else expects you to - even if the 'someone else' is your boss or your family. Because the moment you lose your choices, you start to suffocate and stress!
Often, the person who eliminates the choices is you yourself! Some of us love to work under self-imposed pressure! But this too is finally eliminating your choices...and in the long run, you are walking to a break-down.
All of this might sound easy, but it does require some conscious work. It is so subconscious at times that we do not even see in which aspects of life, we have eliminated our choices. It is never too late to get back your choices. If your work is stressing you, you ALWAYS have the choice to quit. If your family is stressing you, you ALWAYS have the choice to take a break.
Yes, it might seem like your entire world would crash if you did so...But that's the whole point! You need to know that NOTHING terrible would happen if you were to make the choice! You haven't even tried! You are not the only one who is running the show! No system runs on the back of a single individual. When one way of working does not work, another more efficient one props up. That's how any system works. Nobody is irreplaceable!
Remember that there is only one person who is in charge of your life - YOU! And life is all about Freedom! Do not lose your freedom to words such as "Should" and "Must". Claim your freedom back and live your life as if EVERYTHING is a choice!
(also read this beautiful article : http://www.alkimea.co/a-few-tips-on-overcoming-resistance/)
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Question : What is meditation? What is the purpose of meditation? People tell me I need to meditate, but I don't think I could ever sit silently for long hours with my eyes closed....
Answer : The answer to this question can have many different perspectives. Simply because 'meditation' itself is an extremely profound concept. Ancients have given us a wide variety of interpretations and answers to this question. But this is how you could go about meditation at a very gross level.
Let's begin with the words of a great teacher - "An average man’s mind is filled with countless thoughts, and therefore each individual one is extremely weak. When, in place of these many useless thoughts, there appears only one, it is a power in itself and has a wide influence." ~ Sri Ramana Maharshi
It's simple math actually...We are all made up of the Source Energy. Every thought is an avenue to express this energy. Greater the number of thoughts, lesser is the share of energy for each thought...lesser the number of thoughts, greater is the share of energy for each thought. Any thought that we give a lot of energy in terms of time, effort, emotion, belief & action, we are hastening its manifestation.
This is why we say, ANYTHING that we constantly think about and put all our focus onto...it is sure to Manifest!
What if we were to constantly imagine a beautiful world filled with love everywhere?? Your thought and your imagination is a Power unto itself and can influence Your Universe tremendously!
Meditation is the process of just becoming a bit more aware of how you are thinking. Knowing how much energy you are giving to each and every thought.
Start by reducing the energies given to the negative thoughts...increasing the energies to the positive ones.
Eventually, you could assess which of the positive thoughts would really make a difference to the larger good and focus on that alone...
Meditation is not a punishment that you have to endure by sitting with your eyes shut in a dark room. Meditation is a way of life. It is the way we think. It is the way we express our divinity in our universe. It is a sure-shot tool to make your life a better journey...
Begin by just being aware of your thoughts as you go about your daily chores. Eventually, you could make time to sit and focus on something that you really want, and give your energies to it.
But do not be fooled into thinking that that which you close your eyes and think about for an hour will manifest, while you live the rest of your day without a care on the pattern of thoughts.
Remember, Meditation is a way of life!
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Answer : The answer to this question can have many different perspectives. Simply because 'meditation' itself is an extremely profound concept. Ancients have given us a wide variety of interpretations and answers to this question. But this is how you could go about meditation at a very gross level.
Let's begin with the words of a great teacher - "An average man’s mind is filled with countless thoughts, and therefore each individual one is extremely weak. When, in place of these many useless thoughts, there appears only one, it is a power in itself and has a wide influence." ~ Sri Ramana Maharshi
It's simple math actually...We are all made up of the Source Energy. Every thought is an avenue to express this energy. Greater the number of thoughts, lesser is the share of energy for each thought...lesser the number of thoughts, greater is the share of energy for each thought. Any thought that we give a lot of energy in terms of time, effort, emotion, belief & action, we are hastening its manifestation.
This is why we say, ANYTHING that we constantly think about and put all our focus onto...it is sure to Manifest!
What if we were to constantly imagine a beautiful world filled with love everywhere?? Your thought and your imagination is a Power unto itself and can influence Your Universe tremendously!
Meditation is the process of just becoming a bit more aware of how you are thinking. Knowing how much energy you are giving to each and every thought.
Start by reducing the energies given to the negative thoughts...increasing the energies to the positive ones.
Eventually, you could assess which of the positive thoughts would really make a difference to the larger good and focus on that alone...
Meditation is not a punishment that you have to endure by sitting with your eyes shut in a dark room. Meditation is a way of life. It is the way we think. It is the way we express our divinity in our universe. It is a sure-shot tool to make your life a better journey...
Begin by just being aware of your thoughts as you go about your daily chores. Eventually, you could make time to sit and focus on something that you really want, and give your energies to it.
But do not be fooled into thinking that that which you close your eyes and think about for an hour will manifest, while you live the rest of your day without a care on the pattern of thoughts.
Remember, Meditation is a way of life!
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Question : I keep getting this feeling that my worst fears often come true... When I don't want my superior to pull me up for something I'v not done, they invariably do; when I'm running late, I hope for a traffic-free road and I'm invariably stuck in traffic; when I really don't want to meet someone, they almost magically run into me out of the blue!...I suppose you get the hang of it. So my question is - Why is it that what I hope for avoids me most of the time, but what I dread, instantly comes to get me?
Answer : We are all Energy Beings. All of us have a 'Vibrational State' that is constantly telling the universe what is our state of mind. The universe in turn, is only trying to align itself to our predominant vibrations to reach a state of balance and resonance. The Universe does not see ANYTHING as appropriate or inappropriate. It just strives to achieve a balance!
So now every time we get a fearful thought, our subconscious mind draws out a mental image of the scene that we dread, we visualize the scene and then feel a tremendous emotion - fear/anger/dread,etc. - all in less than a second! This "thought + emotion" combination sends out a very strong Vibrational Signal to the universe. Our Energy Body (aura) also holds the patterns of this "thought+emotion" message. And more often that not, the universe simply aligns with our energy field to give us what we want in an almost miraculous way!
So what we want to do, is to use this brilliant mechanism to make our wishes come true! CREATIVE VISUALIZATION is what we're talking about: Using our visualization powers to create an image of what we want, backing it up with the emotion/feeling of how it would feel like to have our 'dream come true' and allowing this signal to go out to the universe through our Vibrational Body.
All of us use Creative Visualization every single day! But we use it unconsciously to create what we don't want. But being aware of this, can help us use this consciously in ways that we do love.
This technique is Incredibly powerful and when you become aware of the power that you hold, you will be creating miracles daily.
Yes, one might need to do this regularly, at least in the beginning, because we already hold many vibratory signals from the past, that might need to be rewritten! But once, we have gotten to the stage of creating what we want, there is no looking back. The Universe finds unbelievable ways to make things come true for you!
People have used this tool to:
~ Set right a relationship
~ Manifest Abundance of wealth
~ Attract their life-partner
~ Address health issues (remove fibroids, kidney stones, etc)
~ Create a better career; and the list goes on...
Read 5 simple steps to Effective Creative Visualization here in this link :
http://www.mind-your-reality.com/creative_visualization.html#Part_2
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Answer : We are all Energy Beings. All of us have a 'Vibrational State' that is constantly telling the universe what is our state of mind. The universe in turn, is only trying to align itself to our predominant vibrations to reach a state of balance and resonance. The Universe does not see ANYTHING as appropriate or inappropriate. It just strives to achieve a balance!
So now every time we get a fearful thought, our subconscious mind draws out a mental image of the scene that we dread, we visualize the scene and then feel a tremendous emotion - fear/anger/dread,etc. - all in less than a second! This "thought + emotion" combination sends out a very strong Vibrational Signal to the universe. Our Energy Body (aura) also holds the patterns of this "thought+emotion" message. And more often that not, the universe simply aligns with our energy field to give us what we want in an almost miraculous way!
So what we want to do, is to use this brilliant mechanism to make our wishes come true! CREATIVE VISUALIZATION is what we're talking about: Using our visualization powers to create an image of what we want, backing it up with the emotion/feeling of how it would feel like to have our 'dream come true' and allowing this signal to go out to the universe through our Vibrational Body.
All of us use Creative Visualization every single day! But we use it unconsciously to create what we don't want. But being aware of this, can help us use this consciously in ways that we do love.
This technique is Incredibly powerful and when you become aware of the power that you hold, you will be creating miracles daily.
Yes, one might need to do this regularly, at least in the beginning, because we already hold many vibratory signals from the past, that might need to be rewritten! But once, we have gotten to the stage of creating what we want, there is no looking back. The Universe finds unbelievable ways to make things come true for you!
People have used this tool to:
~ Set right a relationship
~ Manifest Abundance of wealth
~ Attract their life-partner
~ Address health issues (remove fibroids, kidney stones, etc)
~ Create a better career; and the list goes on...
Read 5 simple steps to Effective Creative Visualization here in this link :
http://www.mind-your-reality.com/creative_visualization.html#Part_2
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Question : I'm very confused about the topic of 'Sex'...I see the western culture very open and relaxed about the act of sex, and I do not understand the reason for so much of hype and guilt put around the topic in our society. What is "Sex" from a spiritual perspective?
Answer : Well, sex is definitely one of the most discussed topics in a variety of forms and formats...but very rarely is it looked at as a spiritual process that is as important to the body as eating food or expressing our emotions or feeling loved...
Here is an attempt to understand sex as a spiritual experience. I've heard this over and over where people say "Sex is not spiritual, it's materialistic!", "Sex takes us away from the divine!" and other similar remarks in much stronger words as well...
For one, I myself started off with a similar belief. But no sooner did I realize that it is just a belief, I started to make peace with it.
Sexual Energy is a very real aspect of our lives. It is centered around the Sex Chakra or 'The Swaadishtana Chakra'. It is one of the purposes of the soul coming in a human body - to express and satisfy the energies flowing through the Swaadishtana Chakra, before he can experience the energies of the higher chakras.
The Swaadishtana Chakra, as the name says it, is responsible for ALL the 'Swaad' of life, the sensual and sexual pleasures of life. Therefore, the ability to enjoy delicious food or a beautiful painting is as much an expression of the Swaadishtana as is the act of making love. Devoid of the sexual energy, we would not even be able to perceive a lot of the sensual (sensory) inputs coming in - be it nature's beauty or fine clothing. Which obviously implies that the Swaadishtana Chakra is of great relevance in the human existence. And the act of making love or having sex is one of the most potent expressions of the Swaadishtana (though not the only expressions).
However, we must realise that the act of making love is not just an act of the physical body. It involves our entire being and all our astral and etheric bodies as well. Often, the union of the energy bodies continues long after the physical bodies have parted. This is both good and bad at the same time. Having our energies mingled with another would mean, we would very subconsciously pick up their moods, their emotions, their patterns, even their behavioural tendencies at times...
This is alright for partners who are in a relationship, because it would help them connect at a much deeper level and know each other deeply. But perhaps we wouldn't want to be carrying energies of people we don't really know! Further, this would worsen if our sexual partner were to have intercourse with a third person soon after. Now, our energies are being passed on to another person and mingling with their energies as well during their intercourse. We are automatically pulling on more complications and connecting to auras and energies of people we don't even know!!
The Vedic culture did understand the spiritual significance of making love, which is why certain do's and don'ts were suggested. Therefore, there is a reason why virgins were considered more ideal for a marriage or why too much sex was considered harmful for someone who is on the spiritual path of purifying his energies.
However, over time, as with most spiritual knowledge, all of this was skewed and misunderstood. There was a lot of societal pressure and judgement coming in about a very simple, spiritual act of expressing love. A lot of guilt was attached to the process. I guess, it is only time to educate ourselves and decide for ourselves how, when, why, where and with whom we would like to express our sexual energies...
Read more about some of the Spiritual perspectives and consequences of Sexual Contact at the link below :
http://www.wellnessexclusive.com/bangalore/promiscuity.htm
A Deeper look at Sexuality and Consciousness from a Spiritual perspective (a thorough look at Sexuality) :
http://www.psychedelicadventure.net/2012/07/pleiadian-teachings-on-sexuality.html
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Answer : Well, sex is definitely one of the most discussed topics in a variety of forms and formats...but very rarely is it looked at as a spiritual process that is as important to the body as eating food or expressing our emotions or feeling loved...
Here is an attempt to understand sex as a spiritual experience. I've heard this over and over where people say "Sex is not spiritual, it's materialistic!", "Sex takes us away from the divine!" and other similar remarks in much stronger words as well...
For one, I myself started off with a similar belief. But no sooner did I realize that it is just a belief, I started to make peace with it.
Sexual Energy is a very real aspect of our lives. It is centered around the Sex Chakra or 'The Swaadishtana Chakra'. It is one of the purposes of the soul coming in a human body - to express and satisfy the energies flowing through the Swaadishtana Chakra, before he can experience the energies of the higher chakras.
The Swaadishtana Chakra, as the name says it, is responsible for ALL the 'Swaad' of life, the sensual and sexual pleasures of life. Therefore, the ability to enjoy delicious food or a beautiful painting is as much an expression of the Swaadishtana as is the act of making love. Devoid of the sexual energy, we would not even be able to perceive a lot of the sensual (sensory) inputs coming in - be it nature's beauty or fine clothing. Which obviously implies that the Swaadishtana Chakra is of great relevance in the human existence. And the act of making love or having sex is one of the most potent expressions of the Swaadishtana (though not the only expressions).
However, we must realise that the act of making love is not just an act of the physical body. It involves our entire being and all our astral and etheric bodies as well. Often, the union of the energy bodies continues long after the physical bodies have parted. This is both good and bad at the same time. Having our energies mingled with another would mean, we would very subconsciously pick up their moods, their emotions, their patterns, even their behavioural tendencies at times...
This is alright for partners who are in a relationship, because it would help them connect at a much deeper level and know each other deeply. But perhaps we wouldn't want to be carrying energies of people we don't really know! Further, this would worsen if our sexual partner were to have intercourse with a third person soon after. Now, our energies are being passed on to another person and mingling with their energies as well during their intercourse. We are automatically pulling on more complications and connecting to auras and energies of people we don't even know!!
The Vedic culture did understand the spiritual significance of making love, which is why certain do's and don'ts were suggested. Therefore, there is a reason why virgins were considered more ideal for a marriage or why too much sex was considered harmful for someone who is on the spiritual path of purifying his energies.
However, over time, as with most spiritual knowledge, all of this was skewed and misunderstood. There was a lot of societal pressure and judgement coming in about a very simple, spiritual act of expressing love. A lot of guilt was attached to the process. I guess, it is only time to educate ourselves and decide for ourselves how, when, why, where and with whom we would like to express our sexual energies...
Read more about some of the Spiritual perspectives and consequences of Sexual Contact at the link below :
http://www.wellnessexclusive.com/bangalore/promiscuity.htm
A Deeper look at Sexuality and Consciousness from a Spiritual perspective (a thorough look at Sexuality) :
http://www.psychedelicadventure.net/2012/07/pleiadian-teachings-on-sexuality.html
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Question : When I go through life, I come across many dilemmas. I'm not sure at times, if what I'm doing is right or wrong. I try my best to listen to my 'Inner Voice', but it is exactly at these moments I feel I just can't hear my Inner Voice. So what do I do then? Is there any way I can tune in to my Inner voice better?
Answer : Yes, there is an easier way to tune in to know what your inner voice is saying. We often say that when you have a dilemma, it is good to listen to your mind, but consult your heart as well, for just a moment! Take a decision which is a marriage between the 'head' and 'heart'...
And in case, you feel you are not able to listen to the voice of your heart / Inner Voice, just ask yourself the following questions. You will know what your heart has to say in most cases!
1. Can I go back home and proudly/happily tell my family about what I am about to do?
2. If there were a hundred eyes watching me at this moment, would I still do what I'm intending to do?
3. If I am at the receiving end of my action, would I like/appreciate it?
4. If my son/daughter were to ask me for help in this dilemma, would I recommend the same action as I am about to perform now?
5. Do I really want to do this? ( and listen to first thought that comes in your head - that's your Inner Voice speaking )
Suggestion: In the long run, practicing a few moments of sitting silently and listening to all the chatter in your head is good for you. You can do this at work, on your bed, in the shower, anywhere! You will slowly start to distinguish the voices in your head. The voice that speaks with love, faith and hope is the Inner Voice. The Inner voice does not give explanations and reasons. It just says what must be done! Try to identify your inner voice. This is meditative!
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Answer : Yes, there is an easier way to tune in to know what your inner voice is saying. We often say that when you have a dilemma, it is good to listen to your mind, but consult your heart as well, for just a moment! Take a decision which is a marriage between the 'head' and 'heart'...
And in case, you feel you are not able to listen to the voice of your heart / Inner Voice, just ask yourself the following questions. You will know what your heart has to say in most cases!
1. Can I go back home and proudly/happily tell my family about what I am about to do?
2. If there were a hundred eyes watching me at this moment, would I still do what I'm intending to do?
3. If I am at the receiving end of my action, would I like/appreciate it?
4. If my son/daughter were to ask me for help in this dilemma, would I recommend the same action as I am about to perform now?
5. Do I really want to do this? ( and listen to first thought that comes in your head - that's your Inner Voice speaking )
Suggestion: In the long run, practicing a few moments of sitting silently and listening to all the chatter in your head is good for you. You can do this at work, on your bed, in the shower, anywhere! You will slowly start to distinguish the voices in your head. The voice that speaks with love, faith and hope is the Inner Voice. The Inner voice does not give explanations and reasons. It just says what must be done! Try to identify your inner voice. This is meditative!
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Question : There are some negative memories in my life that I just can't get over! The moment I think of it I seem to just spiral down into a negative state and it seems as if the rest of my day is just a total disaster. How do I get out of this state? What do I need to do overcome my Past Negative Experiences?
Answer : Try recollecting a very happy experience in your life - maybe your birthday party as a 10 year old, your graduation, your first job, your marriage or the birth of your first child. Observe yourself. You will notice that you would recollect how happy you were and you remember all that you did in that happiness. But it does not really affect you in the present moment. However, certain painful memories of the past seem to hold us in a grip. The moment the memory is triggered, all that emotion comes up and even affects you in the present.
The reason is simple. When you experience a Positive emotion, you feel the emotion completely; you express it completely and get done with the experience totally and completely. The moment is complete! But when you go through a negative emotion, you have conditioned yourself to NOT express everything that you feel; you suppress a large part of yourself in the attempt to finish with the pain; you have not gotten done with the experience totally and completely. That experience is like a running program in your memory-space.
The moment there is a trigger to that memory, you feel all of that emotion surging back to you. You want to express the emotion but don't know how to. The result is that you only add to that emotional pool already inside.
At a certain point there are so many 'running programs' in your mind, that the smallest trigger can 'hang your system'.
Focus on resolving your suppressed emotions. Breathe out deeply and rapidly when you feel an emotion surging. Try to healthily express all that is stored inside of you. Seek help if you think you need it. The end point is to store EVERY Experience as just a memory - some are happy, some are not so happy.
When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed.
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Answer : Try recollecting a very happy experience in your life - maybe your birthday party as a 10 year old, your graduation, your first job, your marriage or the birth of your first child. Observe yourself. You will notice that you would recollect how happy you were and you remember all that you did in that happiness. But it does not really affect you in the present moment. However, certain painful memories of the past seem to hold us in a grip. The moment the memory is triggered, all that emotion comes up and even affects you in the present.
The reason is simple. When you experience a Positive emotion, you feel the emotion completely; you express it completely and get done with the experience totally and completely. The moment is complete! But when you go through a negative emotion, you have conditioned yourself to NOT express everything that you feel; you suppress a large part of yourself in the attempt to finish with the pain; you have not gotten done with the experience totally and completely. That experience is like a running program in your memory-space.
The moment there is a trigger to that memory, you feel all of that emotion surging back to you. You want to express the emotion but don't know how to. The result is that you only add to that emotional pool already inside.
At a certain point there are so many 'running programs' in your mind, that the smallest trigger can 'hang your system'.
Focus on resolving your suppressed emotions. Breathe out deeply and rapidly when you feel an emotion surging. Try to healthily express all that is stored inside of you. Seek help if you think you need it. The end point is to store EVERY Experience as just a memory - some are happy, some are not so happy.
When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed.
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Question : There are some people I meet once in a while who somehow always pick up little things I might say and make it a big deal! It is always so much of stress to be in their presence...I never know when that person would pounce on me, when he/she would misunderstand me and 'put words in my mouth'! How do I deal with such people?
Answer : Don’t take other people’s negative reactions personally. Most negative people behave negatively not just to you, but to everyone they interact with. What they say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own attitude.
We have seen that people with so called 'bad attitudes' often have a lot of hidden pain and rejection coming from their past. This pain and trauma reflects in very subconscious patterns. Somebody who is ever-ready to retort and 'get even' at the drop of a hat is often someone who has felt grossly violated and taken advantage of in the past. It is only to ensure that they are not treated like a doormat again that subconsciously, they are always on the guard. When they 'pounce' on you, deep inside they believe they are protecting themselves from pain and violation YET AGAIN! When they create a big ruckus over a little remark, they believe they are in some way undoing what has already happened in the past.
Unfortunately, for these people, unless they forgive those who have originally hurt them, there really is never much peace.
And people who are target to such 'difficult people' need to know that the only solution is a lot of gentle love and sensitivity to their needs. Love alone can heal them. The more difficult they seem, the more they have been deprived of love and the more desperate they are for it.
Even when a situation seems personal, even if someone insults you directly, it oftentimes has nothing to do with you. Remember, what these people say and do, and the opinions they have, are based entirely on their own self-reflection and their understanding of people based on their past. Their sense of reality is clouded by their emotions. Talk to them without judgement. Talk to them with a lot of sensitivity. Talk to them with love. You will see a different person in front of you!
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Answer : Don’t take other people’s negative reactions personally. Most negative people behave negatively not just to you, but to everyone they interact with. What they say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own attitude.
We have seen that people with so called 'bad attitudes' often have a lot of hidden pain and rejection coming from their past. This pain and trauma reflects in very subconscious patterns. Somebody who is ever-ready to retort and 'get even' at the drop of a hat is often someone who has felt grossly violated and taken advantage of in the past. It is only to ensure that they are not treated like a doormat again that subconsciously, they are always on the guard. When they 'pounce' on you, deep inside they believe they are protecting themselves from pain and violation YET AGAIN! When they create a big ruckus over a little remark, they believe they are in some way undoing what has already happened in the past.
Unfortunately, for these people, unless they forgive those who have originally hurt them, there really is never much peace.
And people who are target to such 'difficult people' need to know that the only solution is a lot of gentle love and sensitivity to their needs. Love alone can heal them. The more difficult they seem, the more they have been deprived of love and the more desperate they are for it.
Even when a situation seems personal, even if someone insults you directly, it oftentimes has nothing to do with you. Remember, what these people say and do, and the opinions they have, are based entirely on their own self-reflection and their understanding of people based on their past. Their sense of reality is clouded by their emotions. Talk to them without judgement. Talk to them with a lot of sensitivity. Talk to them with love. You will see a different person in front of you!
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